Hey. I was wondering..... what are gay men attracted to??

Obviously I'm gay. (n i dont mean to offend anyone and im sorry if did) but I don't follow the stereotypical gay lifestyle that ppl think gay guys have. Promiscuous lives. I try not to have meaningless ual encounters because i believe in dating n relationships. But its hard to find a guy who acts the same as me. Should i give in and have ual encounters in hopes that I will find "him" or should i keep on searching the non way?